Going With The Flow!

What does this saying really mean? In googling it, different meanings referring to “the flow of happiness” come up, as well as going with the majority, and/or being agreeable to the conditions favored by most.

The way I have come to think of it, however is being able to relax in the energy of the world as it presents itself to you. In the Osho Zen Tarot deck, the Ace of Cups is titled “GOING WITH THE FLOW”, and features a figure floating in water imagery. You can see the water floating around them, and they are relaxing in to it, even going so far as to stick an arm behind their head in a classic relaxed pose!

I am also reminded of the importance of ‘going with the flow’ in other water-themed situations, like when dealing with riptides: “If you cannot swim out of the riptide, float on your back and allow the riptide to take you away from shore until you are beyond the pull of the current. Rip currents generally subside 50 to 100 yards from shore. Once the riptide subsides, swim parallel to shore and then back to shore.” (popularmechanics.com). It’s important to relax at first, because otherwise energy will be wasted. This, of course, contributes to the danger of the situation. So we use of heads, remember what is happening, and relax.

I’m also reminded of what can happen when we get slammed by a wave in the ocean. As surfers know, sometimes you just have to hold your breath and relax in to it as you get tossed and tumbled by the waves. Eventually, there will be a break between waves in which to pop up and catch a breath!

As I’m writing this, theme words are popping out at me. Words and phrases like: relax, waves, flow, energy. There is a lot of symbolic imagery that can be used for this time of change and transformation that is 2020, and let’s learn from it! Think of how you can relax into something, and take a higher perspective. Let’s all try to be a little more flexible and focus on taking the occasional collective breath as we ride these waves!

Poem: “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk”, by Portia Nelson

In the podcast today, I referred to this poem–and said that I would post it here. This poem / story is the foundation to one of my personal favorite wisdoms of “when we find ourselves in a hole, we work on shifting it and getting out–we don’t make ourselves comfortable!”. In other words, peeps, we don’t pick out drapes and duvet covers. We. Work. On. Getting. Out.

“I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”

― Portia Nelson, There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

I Had No Idea!

One thing I talked about in today’s podcast is the importance of always looking to learn and evolve through this school of life. I even said that I didn’t understand people who choose to stay in limbo and not grow, and / or numb out.

That statement is misleading, because I have lived years of my life within a certain energy of being comfortably numb, as unhappy as I was. Because I drank regularly, I was perfectly (un)happy to live each day in and out, partying and trying to avoid emotional pain (which was, of course, impossible).

Once my decision to quit alcohol held, then I was in a place to continue ‘working’ on myself: going back to school, finishing college degrees, etc. During this time I was also dedicated to exploring the idea of healing my ‘inner’: researching meditation, my personal connection to God / Universal Energy, etc. I felt as though I had my own “Under Construction” sign over my head.

The fascinating thing is: the more I healed, the better I felt…BUT IN LOOKING BACK I NOW REALIZE THAT I WAS STILL NOT HAPPY. But I thought I was. It’s so strange! I am so thankful that now I can definitively see how I am now eons away from where I was.

So the point that I’m trying to make is…it’s ALL GOOD. Keep learning. Keep healing. Keep growing. Keep reaching your goals, and once you complete ’em, make new ones! You will also look back in hindsight and understand how far you’ve come and how much better you feel. Keep it up!

Hard, but worth it!

We ARE Moving Forward–Even If It Doesn’t Seem Like It!

I mentioned this important point in my podcast today (have you given it a listen? If not, check it out on my home page): it’s often the case that things seem as though they’re not changing as fast as we think they should in our lives. We may feel ‘stuck’, and in a limbo state. It becomes frustrating when even though we’ve dedicated ourselves to achieving a goal and put in persistent effort, we still have nothing really to show for it.

DO NOT GIVE UP! This all comes down to divine timing, and also the fact that things work themselves out ‘behind-the-scenes’ or ‘under-the-surface’ much of the time. All we can do is put in the authentic effort, continue walking our paths while connecting with our angels and guides along with God / Universal Energy. Stay open to curves in the road, signs and synchronicity, etc. And look for all of our many blessings!

Remember this daily prayer: “Thank You God, for all of my many blessing, all of the blessings on their way, and for everything always working out for me.” It’s a beautiful thing!

Beautifully determined

A Quick Reminder About Karma!

As we live and move through this time of transformation and change, it’s always good to check in with ourselves on the daily in terms of what we are thinking and feeling! Remember, life presents itself according to how we think and feel, what we focus on (how we see things), and the actions we take.

I encourage us all to consider how we are healing and closing out karmic cycles in our own lives, for now is the time, peeps! One thing that we can actively do to help support this is to work with forgiveness energy and techniques, and work it regularly! There is SO MUCH information, help and resources out there for us…let’s get to it! I just googled ‘ultimate forgiveness”, and a bunch of info was there for the picking. I encourage peeps to look up, learn, and utilize the Ho’oponopono prayer (Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness), which has enormously helped me.

Think about what we are thinking, watching, feeling…for it affects us mind, heart, and spirit. Let’s keep on working on feeling and dealing with our inner muck and yuck as we are healing! Good job!

Mindful consciousness

Feeling, Dealing, and Healing!

Today I had a hard conversation with my niece who just relocated to a new city / state to start college. As happy as I am for her and this new and exciting chapter in her life, I felt the need to level with her in a serious way about the importance of taking care when it comes to her personal safety.

Specifically, I warned her about the possibility of encountering a situation in which she is slipped the ‘date rape’ drug. It happened to me when I was in college in the early 90’s, and it certainly hasn’t gone anywhere: this drug is still making headlines, whether it’s due to people busting a man who was putting it in his date’s drink in a bar (caught on camera), or the Bill Cosby scandal (drugging over 30 women and counting?).

I encouraged her to stick close to friends and keep support close by when out and in social situations (particularly those that involve alcohol). Though it acts fairly quickly, there is a time period in which the individual who is drugged experiences a heightened sense of drunkenness–this is when it’s important to reach out to friends and/or get to a ‘safe space’. Avoid being alone with strangers in any sort of social setting (again, I think that when one is young and new to a city and college experience, it’s super important to keep your friends CLOSE).

I plan on writing a short booklet detailing steps and tips to take into account when it comes to personal safety and situational awareness, but for the purposes of this blog post I will keep it short! Mainly I just alerted her to this drug’s existence, which is good enough for now. I will be sending her my safety booklet as well (keep an eye out for it…coming soon!). I send prayers of healing to all who experience trauma related to the theft of personal choice and sovereignty, and may we all continue to heal ourselves as we move forward into living our best lives!

wise Rumi

Doing A Post Even If I Don’t Feel Like It!

We’re in energetically stressful times, and as I’ve pointed out in my podcast “RVE For The HSP”, it is going to continue until Saturn completes its stay in Capricorn and moves into Aquarius in mid-December!

SO, until then, it’s important that we do our best to challenge ourselves to buckle down and work. This means doing things that we don’t necessarily WANT to do, but should anyway. It means parenting ourselves, and developing self-discipline (ugh). Not easy, but very important to be able to do.

Let’s just know that we’re not alone as we move forward with our personal goals, and as we try and try again. It’s all O.K.! Let’s keep trying; we create our lives and futures in moment after moment!

Heart rocks, shells, and seaglass

Inner Glow-Up!

In my podcast today, I admittedly went on a bit of a rant about the importance of understanding the true beauty of being a quality person in terms of accessing and shining our INNER LIGHT and LOVE.

It is far too easy to fall for the illusion that outer beauty and wealth makes an individual a ‘quality’ person, when really, what matters is what kind of people are they on the inside! Do they have an unhealthy ego / power trip? Are they mean and unkind? Do they focus on working on themselves to be better connected to God Energy? Are they humble? Are they ‘of service’ to others?

This is what matters. when it comes to being a beautiful person, first and foremost we must focus on the inner! Without that, even if someone has all the money in the world they can be decrepit inside; their foundation is built on rotting wood, and falling into a sinkhole within.

Let’s continue to connect with our inner lights and shine bright as we move forward into our best selves and best lives!

Inner light and love, baby!

“Who cares how you look? How do you FEEL?

I, like many if not all people, am going through changes during this time of–you guessed it–change and transformation! The key is to focus on the positive and remain conscious as much as possible (the word ‘conscious’ cracks me up, but it is the language that’s available for the experience of just having a clear and calm mind). No small thing, as I say on my podcast.

We’ve been going through positive change, and it’s been very hard, but we’re not alone! We’re all healing and renovating our ‘insides’, and that’s a tough thing to do. One of the keys to getting through the stress is a specific wisdom that’s been passed down through the ages, and is very much a part of The Law of Attraction: how you you feel? Think about how you want to feel, and shift towards it as much as possible.

This morning I looked in the mirror, and was surprised at how much older I looked. I generally look pretty young, so I was a bit shocked at my reflection; I looked into a window of my future of aging. Luckily, I was immediately comforted by the thought: “Who cares how you look? How do you feel?

This is important for any life situation, large or small. But it’s particularly on point during times in which we, and our very lives, are changing. As we grow them, and ourselves, it’s vital to check in with how we want to FEEL in our lives, and move toward what supports THAT!

I feel pretty good. I’m comforted by the fact that I’ll still be attractive at any age (beauty on the inside does indeed shine out), and that I’m not old yet. I’ll likely never be, because I generally feel balanced, light and thankful. It’s better than any face cream!

See the inner light?