Dealing With and Healing Fear

There are different ways of doing this, of course. I’m simply sharing what has worked for and with me, and hopefully it’s useful to you as well!

  1. The biggest single factor that has helped me dissolve my fear is being (Capital-T) Tired of it! I’m talking SO OVER IT. Just disgustingly tired. Then it’s like getting to an inner place where you turn a corner on the fear. I don’t want to say that you’ll never experience the same fear again, but it’s more manageable each time. It’s just. so. old. and. over.
  2. Another tactic to employ is to work at ‘numbing’ yourself out, in order to not feel the fear. This can be achieved in different ways, and it’s important to focus on positive, healthy ways of doing so–like meditation and conscious breathing. NOT alcohol and other depressants. Exercise can be a good way off achieving this feeling of just being kind of ‘blank’ inside, also enjoying music and hertz frequencies.
  3. In working to get to a place of calm, also work on SHIFTING THE FEAR FEELINGS. How to do this? Well, you can practice different visualizations–for instance, picture a dome of bright, BRIGHT, white healing light over, around, and within you, surrounding you and filling you with this antibacterial light as bright as the Sun! It’s disinfecting all the muck, yuck, mold, etc. in your mind, heart, body, and soul. 🙂 Another thing to do is to consciously relax the different muscles in your body–many of us are very stressed, and the muscles in our bodies reflect this. Physically learn how to relax, and mentally learn how to relax too! Do the research to figure out what techniques work best for you–it’s an individual thing, remember! GOOD LUCK AND KEEP IT UP! Prayers asking for help and protection are huge, so always remember the connection to and with God / Universal Energy!
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The Badass Octopus!

I’ve recently started watching “My Octopus Teacher”, a documentary about a snorkeler’s close friendship with an octopus that he visited daily in the kelp ocean garden where she lived. It was an amazing reminder of a post that I wrote many years ago, which I’ve included in its entirety below.

Before you read it however, I wanted to mention another story that highlights the intelligence of octopuses. One named Inky escaped from a New Zealand aquarium some years ago, and the off-hours break-out involved a multi-leveled plan. This included removing the lid from his tank, scooting down the hall and then entering a small pipe that led him to….the ocean! They tracked his wet trail the next morning. The aquarium staff said that he was a very adventurous and curious octopus, so it was fitting with is personality!

So, without further ado, here is my old article that I wrote:

“The other day I saw this video of an octopus escaping a ship’s deck by squeezing itself through a small hole. The fisherman who had caught it allowed the octopus to leave, and filmed its process of returning to the ocean.

The fisherman claimed that the octopus could ‘sense’ where the ocean is, and make its way back to it through a small hole in the side of the deck, and that’s exactly what happened. The fact that the animal could transform its shape to ooze through the opening didn’t surprise me as much as my husband—after all, they’re known for squeezing into small cracks and crevices in coral and stuff. It was the other video that we clicked on after that surprised me.

That’s when I learned how smart octopi really are. In this video, some scientists were studying their problem-solving and learning abilities, and apparently these cephalopods are a lot more intelligent than their general mucousy blobbiness would lead one to believe.

The scientists designed a box that needed to be opened in a certain way in order to retrieve the food (crab) inside, and the octopus in question would learn to do it and retain that information. Other octopi, not familiar with box, could watch the first one’s actions and learn how to do it themselves. They learn by watching, and can repeat the action.

This all got me thinking: what sort of wisdom is there to take away from the octopus? I love the symbolism in that one’s struggle to make it back to the ocean, and freedom. The persistence, patience, and dedication shown in reaching its goal is my personal take-away. Also the fact that it can plan things, and uses tools. It sounds like my own personal to-do list: Plan things. Use tools to achieve goals. Go toward freedom.

Thank you for your gifts, oh Octopus, Thinker of The Ocean.”

Ocean, filled with wondrous life and beauty

Prayer for Healing!

During a very difficult time in my life, this was my daily prayer. I’m sharing it with you to help with your healing, too!

“Dear God, Universal Energy,

Thank You for all of my many blessings. Please help me be and stay calm, centered, and grounded today. Please help me say and do all the right things at the right times. Please help me conquer my fears and addictions, and instill happiness and inner strength within myself. Please help me realize and utilize my talents and skills to the best of my abilities. And please help me help myself with these things!

In the original definitions and intentions of the words, Thank You, Blessed Be, Amen.”

Healing Mother Tree

Going With The Flow!

What does this saying really mean? In googling it, different meanings referring to “the flow of happiness” come up, as well as going with the majority, and/or being agreeable to the conditions favored by most.

The way I have come to think of it, however is being able to relax in the energy of the world as it presents itself to you. In the Osho Zen Tarot deck, the Ace of Cups is titled “GOING WITH THE FLOW”, and features a figure floating in water imagery. You can see the water floating around them, and they are relaxing in to it, even going so far as to stick an arm behind their head in a classic relaxed pose!

I am also reminded of the importance of ‘going with the flow’ in other water-themed situations, like when dealing with riptides: “If you cannot swim out of the riptide, float on your back and allow the riptide to take you away from shore until you are beyond the pull of the current. Rip currents generally subside 50 to 100 yards from shore. Once the riptide subsides, swim parallel to shore and then back to shore.” (popularmechanics.com). It’s important to relax at first, because otherwise energy will be wasted. This, of course, contributes to the danger of the situation. So we use of heads, remember what is happening, and relax.

I’m also reminded of what can happen when we get slammed by a wave in the ocean. As surfers know, sometimes you just have to hold your breath and relax in to it as you get tossed and tumbled by the waves. Eventually, there will be a break between waves in which to pop up and catch a breath!

As I’m writing this, theme words are popping out at me. Words and phrases like: relax, waves, flow, energy. There is a lot of symbolic imagery that can be used for this time of change and transformation that is 2020, and let’s learn from it! Think of how you can relax into something, and take a higher perspective. Let’s all try to be a little more flexible and focus on taking the occasional collective breath as we ride these waves!

Feeling, Dealing, and Healing!

Today I had a hard conversation with my niece who just relocated to a new city / state to start college. As happy as I am for her and this new and exciting chapter in her life, I felt the need to level with her in a serious way about the importance of taking care when it comes to her personal safety.

Specifically, I warned her about the possibility of encountering a situation in which she is slipped the ‘date rape’ drug. It happened to me when I was in college in the early 90’s, and it certainly hasn’t gone anywhere: this drug is still making headlines, whether it’s due to people busting a man who was putting it in his date’s drink in a bar (caught on camera), or the Bill Cosby scandal (drugging over 30 women and counting?).

I encouraged her to stick close to friends and keep support close by when out and in social situations (particularly those that involve alcohol). Though it acts fairly quickly, there is a time period in which the individual who is drugged experiences a heightened sense of drunkenness–this is when it’s important to reach out to friends and/or get to a ‘safe space’. Avoid being alone with strangers in any sort of social setting (again, I think that when one is young and new to a city and college experience, it’s super important to keep your friends CLOSE).

I plan on writing a short booklet detailing steps and tips to take into account when it comes to personal safety and situational awareness, but for the purposes of this blog post I will keep it short! Mainly I just alerted her to this drug’s existence, which is good enough for now. I will be sending her my safety booklet as well (keep an eye out for it…coming soon!). I send prayers of healing to all who experience trauma related to the theft of personal choice and sovereignty, and may we all continue to heal ourselves as we move forward into living our best lives!

wise Rumi

The Dream or The Devil?

During the Guidance Card portion of today’s podcast, two cards came out back-to-back of opposing energies: the 6 of Cups (titled ‘The Dream’ in Osho Zen), and The Devil (titled ‘Conditioning’ in Osho Zen). These cards are diametrically opposed to one another, and it matches yet again the opposing energies that have been regularly showing up in readings: stop / go, rest / move forward, etc.! These opposing energies are: good will, simple joys, innocence vs. negativity, corruption, coveting. This is nothing new, certainly. These opposing energies are as old as time, and being individuals with free will, we are regularly faced with them. I tend to think that unless one consciously works on shifting our ego issues, pain, and fear, then a negative mind set tends to be the ‘norm’–so keep on working toward thinking and feeling the positive!

The way I see it, it’s not naive or silly, it’s necessary. AND I have evidence in my own life that it reaps positive effects, so why wouldn’t we try to shift our minds to the positive? One way lays sickness, ill-health, and dissatisfaction, and the others lays well-being, healthy energy, and satisfaction. It’s a no-brainer!

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Work It!

As you may well know (particularly if you listen to my podcast “RVE For The HSP”, there is an exact square between Mars and Pluto (Retrograde) that’s currently happening, though we are still feeling the energy of it for a bit because these are major players in the astrological experience!

The key to get through the frustration, anger, rage, fear, shadow side, and power / control issues that may crop up? W-O-R-K on yourself! We should all be WORKING, REALLY WORKING on something: learning a new skill, improving something, healing past wounds, exercising, moving forward with steps toward a goal, changing what no longer works for us, etc.!

Luckily, the Sun conjunct Mercury in Leo, and Neptune (Retrograde) in Pisces are there to give positive support during this time! So definitely focus on your goals, what you allow into your thoughts and mind, and strengthening your connection with God (whether you’re more specifically religious, or generally spiritual–I always say “God is shorthand for ‘Good'”.

Keep your mind occupied with possibilities of positive change, and keep on keepin’ on!

LIGHT!

This morning I’m thinking about light. Light is symbolically linked with truth, enlightenment, and healing (among others). It can be a disinfectant as well.

As we deal with and heal our personal muck and yuck, it’s important to remember to tend to our ‘inner’ light. It’s there, even if we aren’t aware of it. So we might as well work to keep it healthy and bright, so that it shines out into our lives and the world!

We can do this through calming the mind / meditation techniques (of which there are MANY), energy healing, chakra work, sound healing, visualizations, etc. I oftentimes picture myself enclosed in a healing chamber of sorts, surrounded by light, love, and energy for the Highest Good of All, Most Benevolent Outcome for All. Surrounded by and filled with the brightest of light disinfects all of the negativity in and/or around me!

And remember to stoke our inner lights on the daily: build our personal passion within that we then can use to focus on our healing and personal projects! With that, I’ll leave you with one of my favorite sayings. It was on a teabag from long ago, and I kept the little square of paper and covered it with clear tape to preserve it:

“Live light, travel light, spread the light, be the light.” Words to live by!

Shine bright!

Fighting with our reflections

Something happened the other day that brought to my attention the importance of really being aware of ways in which we fight, work against, and possibly hurt ourselves through subconscious self-sabotage.

I noticed a bird that was perched at the back of our car, and it was regularly fluttering and pecking at the rear window. I saw this off and on all day, and after looking throughly to make sure it wasn’t distressed about babies or hunting for bugs, figured that the bird was likely upset with its reflection.

This theory was confirmed when googling it, and my husband and I found out that this aggressive behavior is due to the bird defending his territory. Unfortunately, birds who confront and attack their reflections are at risk of exhausting and injuring themselves! So we did what the article recommended, and covered the window with paper. And it worked!

This got me thinking: how often do we risk exhaustion and injury to ourselves by fighting dreams, shadows, and reflections of ourselves within? It’s time to pay particular attention to any feeling of anger turned inward, and remember to be gentle with ourselves. Remember that we are stronger than we know, and that using our energy constructively is the way to go, vs. pecking / picking at our reflections. SELF-LOVE, not self-sabotage!

So, in times in which we are tempted to have negative self-talk, visualize papering your mind over with brown-paper-bag, secure it all with packing tape, in order to keep yourself protected from pecks!

Sending you love and peace, and may you be safe and well–