Dealing With and Healing Fear

There are different ways of doing this, of course. I’m simply sharing what has worked for and with me, and hopefully it’s useful to you as well!

  1. The biggest single factor that has helped me dissolve my fear is being (Capital-T) Tired of it! I’m talking SO OVER IT. Just disgustingly tired. Then it’s like getting to an inner place where you turn a corner on the fear. I don’t want to say that you’ll never experience the same fear again, but it’s more manageable each time. It’s just. so. old. and. over.
  2. Another tactic to employ is to work at ‘numbing’ yourself out, in order to not feel the fear. This can be achieved in different ways, and it’s important to focus on positive, healthy ways of doing so–like meditation and conscious breathing. NOT alcohol and other depressants. Exercise can be a good way off achieving this feeling of just being kind of ‘blank’ inside, also enjoying music and hertz frequencies.
  3. In working to get to a place of calm, also work on SHIFTING THE FEAR FEELINGS. How to do this? Well, you can practice different visualizations–for instance, picture a dome of bright, BRIGHT, white healing light over, around, and within you, surrounding you and filling you with this antibacterial light as bright as the Sun! It’s disinfecting all the muck, yuck, mold, etc. in your mind, heart, body, and soul. 🙂 Another thing to do is to consciously relax the different muscles in your body–many of us are very stressed, and the muscles in our bodies reflect this. Physically learn how to relax, and mentally learn how to relax too! Do the research to figure out what techniques work best for you–it’s an individual thing, remember! GOOD LUCK AND KEEP IT UP! Prayers asking for help and protection are huge, so always remember the connection to and with God / Universal Energy!
Rainbow sky effect

The Badass Octopus!

I’ve recently started watching “My Octopus Teacher”, a documentary about a snorkeler’s close friendship with an octopus that he visited daily in the kelp ocean garden where she lived. It was an amazing reminder of a post that I wrote many years ago, which I’ve included in its entirety below.

Before you read it however, I wanted to mention another story that highlights the intelligence of octopuses. One named Inky escaped from a New Zealand aquarium some years ago, and the off-hours break-out involved a multi-leveled plan. This included removing the lid from his tank, scooting down the hall and then entering a small pipe that led him to….the ocean! They tracked his wet trail the next morning. The aquarium staff said that he was a very adventurous and curious octopus, so it was fitting with is personality!

So, without further ado, here is my old article that I wrote:

“The other day I saw this video of an octopus escaping a ship’s deck by squeezing itself through a small hole. The fisherman who had caught it allowed the octopus to leave, and filmed its process of returning to the ocean.

The fisherman claimed that the octopus could ‘sense’ where the ocean is, and make its way back to it through a small hole in the side of the deck, and that’s exactly what happened. The fact that the animal could transform its shape to ooze through the opening didn’t surprise me as much as my husband—after all, they’re known for squeezing into small cracks and crevices in coral and stuff. It was the other video that we clicked on after that surprised me.

That’s when I learned how smart octopi really are. In this video, some scientists were studying their problem-solving and learning abilities, and apparently these cephalopods are a lot more intelligent than their general mucousy blobbiness would lead one to believe.

The scientists designed a box that needed to be opened in a certain way in order to retrieve the food (crab) inside, and the octopus in question would learn to do it and retain that information. Other octopi, not familiar with box, could watch the first one’s actions and learn how to do it themselves. They learn by watching, and can repeat the action.

This all got me thinking: what sort of wisdom is there to take away from the octopus? I love the symbolism in that one’s struggle to make it back to the ocean, and freedom. The persistence, patience, and dedication shown in reaching its goal is my personal take-away. Also the fact that it can plan things, and uses tools. It sounds like my own personal to-do list: Plan things. Use tools to achieve goals. Go toward freedom.

Thank you for your gifts, oh Octopus, Thinker of The Ocean.”

Ocean, filled with wondrous life and beauty

Prayer for Healing!

During a very difficult time in my life, this was my daily prayer. I’m sharing it with you to help with your healing, too!

“Dear God, Universal Energy,

Thank You for all of my many blessings. Please help me be and stay calm, centered, and grounded today. Please help me say and do all the right things at the right times. Please help me conquer my fears and addictions, and instill happiness and inner strength within myself. Please help me realize and utilize my talents and skills to the best of my abilities. And please help me help myself with these things!

In the original definitions and intentions of the words, Thank You, Blessed Be, Amen.”

Healing Mother Tree

I Had No Idea!

One thing I talked about in today’s podcast is the importance of always looking to learn and evolve through this school of life. I even said that I didn’t understand people who choose to stay in limbo and not grow, and / or numb out.

That statement is misleading, because I have lived years of my life within a certain energy of being comfortably numb, as unhappy as I was. Because I drank regularly, I was perfectly (un)happy to live each day in and out, partying and trying to avoid emotional pain (which was, of course, impossible).

Once my decision to quit alcohol held, then I was in a place to continue ‘working’ on myself: going back to school, finishing college degrees, etc. During this time I was also dedicated to exploring the idea of healing my ‘inner’: researching meditation, my personal connection to God / Universal Energy, etc. I felt as though I had my own “Under Construction” sign over my head.

The fascinating thing is: the more I healed, the better I felt…BUT IN LOOKING BACK I NOW REALIZE THAT I WAS STILL NOT HAPPY. But I thought I was. It’s so strange! I am so thankful that now I can definitively see how I am now eons away from where I was.

So the point that I’m trying to make is…it’s ALL GOOD. Keep learning. Keep healing. Keep growing. Keep reaching your goals, and once you complete ’em, make new ones! You will also look back in hindsight and understand how far you’ve come and how much better you feel. Keep it up!

Hard, but worth it!

We ARE Moving Forward–Even If It Doesn’t Seem Like It!

I mentioned this important point in my podcast today (have you given it a listen? If not, check it out on my home page): it’s often the case that things seem as though they’re not changing as fast as we think they should in our lives. We may feel ‘stuck’, and in a limbo state. It becomes frustrating when even though we’ve dedicated ourselves to achieving a goal and put in persistent effort, we still have nothing really to show for it.

DO NOT GIVE UP! This all comes down to divine timing, and also the fact that things work themselves out ‘behind-the-scenes’ or ‘under-the-surface’ much of the time. All we can do is put in the authentic effort, continue walking our paths while connecting with our angels and guides along with God / Universal Energy. Stay open to curves in the road, signs and synchronicity, etc. And look for all of our many blessings!

Remember this daily prayer: “Thank You God, for all of my many blessing, all of the blessings on their way, and for everything always working out for me.” It’s a beautiful thing!

Beautifully determined

Doing A Post Even If I Don’t Feel Like It!

We’re in energetically stressful times, and as I’ve pointed out in my podcast “RVE For The HSP”, it is going to continue until Saturn completes its stay in Capricorn and moves into Aquarius in mid-December!

SO, until then, it’s important that we do our best to challenge ourselves to buckle down and work. This means doing things that we don’t necessarily WANT to do, but should anyway. It means parenting ourselves, and developing self-discipline (ugh). Not easy, but very important to be able to do.

Let’s just know that we’re not alone as we move forward with our personal goals, and as we try and try again. It’s all O.K.! Let’s keep trying; we create our lives and futures in moment after moment!

Heart rocks, shells, and seaglass

H-A-L-T (E-D)

When recovering from an addiction or addictive behavior, it’s important to monitor times when we feel crappy, and do a check in regarding certain things: are we hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? Generally, these can contribute to us feeling out of sorts, depressed, and grumpy.

I’d like to add another two: Energy? And Dehydration? With the first, we could have negative and heavy energetic residue that we need to clear out. I kind of look at it as ‘brushing’ our auras, and removing yuck that might be stuck to us! There are different ways to do this, so do your research and try it out. The second has to do with the fact that so many people are chronically dehydrated nowadays, perhaps more than ever with the extreme heat occurring. Make sure you’re drinking enough water (and clean water, too)! Otherwise, we can be very irritable and feeling yucky.

Taking personal responsibility to care for our heath on the most basic levels is very important as well as necessary. Keep it up!

Lovely water

The Dream or The Devil?

During the Guidance Card portion of today’s podcast, two cards came out back-to-back of opposing energies: the 6 of Cups (titled ‘The Dream’ in Osho Zen), and The Devil (titled ‘Conditioning’ in Osho Zen). These cards are diametrically opposed to one another, and it matches yet again the opposing energies that have been regularly showing up in readings: stop / go, rest / move forward, etc.! These opposing energies are: good will, simple joys, innocence vs. negativity, corruption, coveting. This is nothing new, certainly. These opposing energies are as old as time, and being individuals with free will, we are regularly faced with them. I tend to think that unless one consciously works on shifting our ego issues, pain, and fear, then a negative mind set tends to be the ‘norm’–so keep on working toward thinking and feeling the positive!

The way I see it, it’s not naive or silly, it’s necessary. AND I have evidence in my own life that it reaps positive effects, so why wouldn’t we try to shift our minds to the positive? One way lays sickness, ill-health, and dissatisfaction, and the others lays well-being, healthy energy, and satisfaction. It’s a no-brainer!

Sunset rain

Inner Glow-Up!

In my podcast today, I admittedly went on a bit of a rant about the importance of understanding the true beauty of being a quality person in terms of accessing and shining our INNER LIGHT and LOVE.

It is far too easy to fall for the illusion that outer beauty and wealth makes an individual a ‘quality’ person, when really, what matters is what kind of people are they on the inside! Do they have an unhealthy ego / power trip? Are they mean and unkind? Do they focus on working on themselves to be better connected to God Energy? Are they humble? Are they ‘of service’ to others?

This is what matters. when it comes to being a beautiful person, first and foremost we must focus on the inner! Without that, even if someone has all the money in the world they can be decrepit inside; their foundation is built on rotting wood, and falling into a sinkhole within.

Let’s continue to connect with our inner lights and shine bright as we move forward into our best selves and best lives!

Inner light and love, baby!

You Are Meant To Be Here!

In today’s podcast, I talk a bit about one of my great mentors who died from adrenal cancer a few years back. She lived her whole life with a deep wounding, feeling that her mother did not love her. I have met others who have felt this pain, feeling rejected from either parental figure, or both.

It is of utmost importance that this is healed, because I tell you with complete certainty that not only were you meant to be born, but you are also a child of God / Universal Energy AND ARE LOVED, AND DESERVE LOVE. You are worthy. You have gifts and talents to offer to the world, so get to it! This deep wounding only serves to cause deep instability on a soul level, and really, who can live their best life with that as a foundation?

I have a theory that the key to healing this pain is our connection with God / Universal Energy. It is truly what heals all wounds, and with it we need nothing else other than food, water, and shelter. It is this great Love that is like the Sun symbol in the tarot, filling us with healing light, health, happiness, abundance and prosperity! From there, everything else is extra goodness: our relationships with others, how we move and interact in our personal spheres, etc.!

So strengthen your self-love today: listen to my podcast from this date to learn more about how!

You are worthy and needed!