Dealing With and Healing Fear

There are different ways of doing this, of course. I’m simply sharing what has worked for and with me, and hopefully it’s useful to you as well!

The biggest single factor that has helped me dissolve my fear is being (Capital-T) Tired of it! I’m talking SO OVER IT. Just disgustingly tired. Then it’s like getting to an inner place where you turn a corner on the fear. I don’t want to say that you’ll never experience the same fear again, but it’s more manageable each time. It’s just. so. old. and. over.
Another tactic to employ is to work at ‘numbing’ yourself out, in order to not feel the fear. This can be achieved in different ways, and it’s important to focus on positive, healthy ways of doing so–like meditation and conscious breathing. NOT alcohol and other depressants. Exercise can be a good way off achieving this feeling of just being kind of ‘blank’ inside, also enjoying music and hertz frequencies.
In working to get to a place of calm, also work on SHIFTING THE FEAR FEELINGS. How to do this? Well, you can practice different visualizations–for instance, picture a dome of bright, BRIGHT, white healing light over, around, and within you, surrounding you and filling you with this antibacterial light as bright as the Sun! It’s disinfecting all the muck, yuck, mold, etc. in your mind, heart, body, and soul. 🙂 Another thing to do is to consciously relax the different muscles in your body–many of us are very stressed, and the muscles in our bodies reflect this. Physically learn how to relax, and mentally learn how to relax too! Do the research to figure out what techniques work best for you–it’s an individual thing, remember! GOOD LUCK AND KEEP IT UP! Prayers asking for help and protection are huge, so always remember the connection to and with God / Universal Energy!

November 24, 2020

I’ve recently started watching “My Octopus Teacher”, a documentary about a snorkeler’s close friendship with an octopus that he visited daily in the kelp ocean garden where she lived. It was an amazing reminder of a post that I wrote many years ago, which I’ve included in its entirety below.

Before you read it however, I wanted to mention another story that highlights the intelligence of octopuses. One named Inky escaped from a New Zealand aquarium some years ago, and the off-hours break-out involved a multi-leveled plan. This included removing the lid from his tank, scooting down the hall and then entering a small pipe that led him to….the ocean! They tracked his wet trail the next morning. The aquarium staff said that he was a very adventurous and curious octopus, so it was fitting with is personality!

So, without further ado, here is my old article that I wrote:

“The other day I saw this video of an octopus escaping a ship’s deck by squeezing itself through a small hole. The fisherman who had caught it allowed the octopus to leave, and filmed its process of returning to the ocean.

The fisherman claimed that the octopus could ‘sense’ where the ocean is, and make its way back to it through a small hole in the side of the deck, and that’s exactly what happened. The fact that the animal could transform its shape to ooze through the opening didn’t surprise me as much as my husband—after all, they’re known for squeezing into small cracks and crevices in coral and stuff. It was the other video that we clicked on after that surprised me.

That’s when I learned how smart octopi really are. In this video, some scientists were studying their problem-solving and learning abilities, and apparently these cephalopods are a lot more intelligent than their general mucousy blobbiness would lead one to believe.

The scientists designed a box that needed to be opened in a certain way in order to retrieve the food (crab) inside, and the octopus in question would learn to do it and retain that information. Other octopi, not familiar with box, could watch the first one’s actions and learn how to do it themselves. They learn by watching, and can repeat the action.

This all got me thinking: what sort of wisdom is there to take away from the octopus? I love the symbolism in that one’s struggle to make it back to the ocean, and freedom. The persistence, patience, and dedication shown in reaching its goal is my personal take-away. Also the fact that it can plan things, and uses tools. It sounds like my own personal to-do list: Plan things. Use tools to achieve goals. Go toward freedom.

Thank you for your gifts, oh Octopus, Thinker of The Ocean.”

Ocean, filled with wondrous life and beauty

November 20, 2020

Prayer for Healing!

During a very difficult time in my life, this was my daily prayer. I’m sharing it with you to help with your healing, too!

“Dear God, Universal Energy,

Thank You for all of my many blessings. Please help me be and stay calm, centered, and grounded today. Please help me say and do all the right things at the right times. Please help me conquer my fears and addictions, and instill happiness and inner strength within myself. Please help me realize and utilize my talents and skills to the best of my abilities. And please help me help myself with these things!

In the original definitions and intentions of the words, Thank You, Blessed Be, Amen.”

November 2, 2020

Turn Your Nope into Hope!

In my podcast “RVE For The HSP”, I mentioned the importance of staying OPEN to things. Stay open to the blessings that flow into our lives, for the possibilities of healing our inner muck and yuck, to the ways in which we move forward (even if it doesn’t seem like it–remember, the lotus flowers bloom from the thickest of mud).

The letter is the word ‘open’ can be switched around to form the word ‘nope’. It also, I think, can be switched around to grow into the word HOPE–and that’s by watering the small-case letter ‘n’ with healthy sustenance (what we feed our minds), support (what feeds our hearts), water, sunshine, and of course, love. The the spine of the ‘n’ grows a stalk to form the small-case letter ‘h’!

Remember to focus on growing your ‘nopes’ into ‘hopes’!

September 21, 2020

Trust The Process!

I’m reminded time and again during these stressful times to remember to have faith and trust the process within this time of change and transformation! So easy and so hard at the same time, yes?

Breathe in

Breathe out

Let go of doubt

Change your life by changing your thoughts

Commit to working at moving forward

While remembering gratitude and prayer.

September 15, 2020

Going With The Flow!

What does this saying really mean? In googling it, different meanings referring to “the flow of happiness” come up, as well as going with the majority, and/or being agreeable to the conditions favored by most.

The way I have come to think of it, however is being able to relax in the energy of the world as it presents itself to you. In the Osho Zen Tarot deck, the Ace of Cups is titled “GOING WITH THE FLOW”, and features a figure floating in water imagery. You can see the water floating around them, and they are relaxing in to it, even going so far as to stick an arm behind their head in a classic relaxed pose!

I am also reminded of the importance of ‘going with the flow’ in other water-themed situations, like when dealing with riptides: “If you cannot swim out of the riptide, float on your back and allow the riptide to take you away from shore until you are beyond the pull of the current. Rip currents generally subside 50 to 100 yards from shore. Once the riptide subsides, swim parallel to shore and then back to shore.” (popularmechanics.com). It’s important to relax at first, because otherwise energy will be wasted. This, of course, contributes to the danger of the situation. So we use of heads, remember what is happening, and relax.

I’m also reminded of what can happen when we get slammed by a wave in the ocean. As surfers know, sometimes you just have to hold your breath and relax in to it as you get tossed and tumbled by the waves. Eventually, there will be a break between waves in which to pop up and catch a breath!

As I’m writing this, theme words are popping out at me. Words and phrases like: relax, waves, flow, energy. There is a lot of symbolic imagery that can be used for this time of change and transformation that is 2020, and let’s learn from it! Think of how you can relax into something, and take a higher perspective. Let’s all try to be a little more flexible and focus on taking the occasional collective breath as we ride these waves!

September 4, 2020

Poem: “There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk”, by Portia Nelson

In the podcast today, I referred to this poem–and said that I would post it here. This poem / story is the foundation to one of my personal favorite wisdoms of “when we find ourselves in a hole, we work on shifting it and getting out–we don’t make ourselves comfortable!”. In other words, peeps, we don’t pick out drapes and duvet covers. We. Work. On. Getting. Out.

“I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”

― Portia Nelson, There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

September 4, 2020

I Had No Idea!

One thing I talked about in today’s podcast is the importance of always looking to learn and evolve through this school of life. I even said that I didn’t understand people who choose to stay in limbo and not grow, and / or numb out.

That statement is misleading, because I have lived years of my life within a certain energy of being comfortably numb, as unhappy as I was. Because I drank regularly, I was perfectly (un)happy to live each day in and out, partying and trying to avoid emotional pain (which was, of course, impossible).

Once my decision to quit alcohol held, then I was in a place to continue ‘working’ on myself: going back to school, finishing college degrees, etc. During this time I was also dedicated to exploring the idea of healing my ‘inner’: researching meditation, my personal connection to God / Universal Energy, etc. I felt as though I had my own “Under Construction” sign over my head.

The fascinating thing is: the more I healed, the better I felt…BUT IN LOOKING BACK I NOW REALIZE THAT I WAS STILL NOT HAPPY. But I thought I was. It’s so strange! I am so thankful that now I can definitively see how I am now eons away from where I was.

So the point that I’m trying to make is…it’s ALL GOOD. Keep learning. Keep healing. Keep growing. Keep reaching your goals, and once you complete ’em, make new ones! You will also look back in hindsight and understand how far you’ve come and how much better you feel. Keep it up!

September 3, 2020

We ARE Moving Forward–Even If It Doesn’t Seem Like It!

I mentioned this important point in my podcast today (have you given it a listen? If not, check it out on my home page): it’s often the case that things seem as though they’re not changing as fast as we think they should in our lives. We may feel ‘stuck’, and in a limbo state. It becomes frustrating when even though we’ve dedicated ourselves to achieving a goal and put in persistent effort, we still have nothing really to show for it.

DO NOT GIVE UP! This all comes down to divine timing, and also the fact that things work themselves out ‘behind-the-scenes’ or ‘under-the-surface’ much of the time. All we can do is put in the authentic effort, continue walking our paths while connecting with our angels and guides along with God / Universal Energy. Stay open to curves in the road, signs and synchronicity, etc. And look for all of our many blessings!

Remember this daily prayer: “Thank You God, for all of my many blessing, all of the blessings on their way, and for everything always working out for me.” It’s a beautiful thing!

August 27, 2020

A Quick Reminder About Karma!

As we live and move through this time of transformation and change, it’s always good to check in with ourselves on the daily in terms of what we are thinking and feeling! Remember, life presents itself according to how we think and feel, what we focus on (how we see things), and the actions we take.

I encourage us all to consider how we are healing and closing out karmic cycles in our own lives, for now is the time, peeps! One thing that we can actively do to help support this is to work with forgiveness energy and techniques, and work it regularly! There is SO MUCH information, help and resources out there for us…let’s get to it! I just googled ‘ultimate forgiveness”, and a bunch of info was there for the picking. I encourage peeps to look up, learn, and utilize the Ho’oponopono prayer (Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness), which has enormously helped me.

Think about what we are thinking, watching, feeling…for it affects us mind, heart, and spirit. Let’s keep on working on feeling and dealing with our inner muck and yuck as we are healing! Good job!

‘Always Moving Forward’ Blog!